Nearly all weddings involve a massive amount of planning. Most of it is done by the bride and her mum. There is often frantic last minute checking and tying up of loose ends as the the big day finally approaches. Often the groom is just a bystander in this process. Sometimes the groom is quite involved in the general scheme of things but in many cases he is metaphorically waiting in the wings for instructions when there is a job to be done.
On the morning of the wedding there is always a need for a bit of coordination to ensure that everything is as it should be. Ideally you either need a very good best man who is willing and able to take charge or a professional Toastmaster / Master of Ceremonies. Having someone who can pull it all together on the day is worth its weight in gold. You need someone with a cool head, who understands how you want things to be and can calmly get things sorted out as necessary.
There is always a certain degree of running backwards and forwards, checking this and that, confirming details with key people, liaison between caterers, musicians, registrar, bridesmaids, parents, groom, best man, wedding guests etc etc. Its surprising but its making sure all the little things are right which makes a huge difference to the success of the day.
To pull it off requires the cooperation of all parties. There’s a lot of foot work to be done but its not usually a problem. There is one exception which always sticks in my mind. I had a groom at one wedding who kept disappearing. Everytime I went off to do something I asked him where he would be when I got back. I would nip off to do whatever it was I had to do then return to find he had vanished. This happened every time I spoke to him in the run up to the actual wedding ceremony. He wasn’t deliberately hiding from me, I think he was probably a bit nervous and just liked to keep moving. Looking back it was quite funny. In my mind I nick named him the Scarlet Pimpernel.
Ron’s advice to the groom: You are a key part of the wedding. Stay visible and let people know where you are at all times. Don’t be a Scralet Pimpernel at your wedding!